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Phone Sex VS. Real Sex

When it comes to sex, most would say that there’s nothing like the real thing and for the most part, I agree BUT…..sometimes phone sex can be more satisfying.

There isn’t just one reason why some like phone sex better, it depends on what they need sexually. I don’t have to tell anyone what makes sex good but alot of times there’s something missing. I’ve done calls with guys whose wife was in the next room or in the same room while the wife was asleep;) Why would they call me instead of making love to the woman that’s right there? Sometimes a man wants more.

Let’s face it, most guys call phone sex because they are horny and no one is there to have sex with and masturbating while talking to a girl with a hot voice is better than masturbating alone. These are NOT the phone sex callers I’m speaking of. The callers I’m talking about enjoy phone sex more than real sex for other reasons like: 

  • They are in control and can make the experience be what ‘they’ want.
  • The freedom of talking about what really turns them on, no matter how kinky it may be.
  • Their partner isn’t into some of the things they like and may leave them if they knew;)
  • The girl on the phone is always ready, willing, and almost never says no.
  • It’s all about him and his fantasy
  • It’s less work 

I’ve had guys tell me that their orgasms are more intense having phone sex than with their partner. There are women who feel the same way. I recently read an article where a woman was seeking advice to help her enjoy real sex as much as phone sex. (click here to read it

Why Do You Love Phone Sex?

I recently visited a forum where someone asked ‘Why men love phone sex?’ Of course there were several opinions on the subject like – “cause we like jerkin off”, “because they can’t get the real thing!”, “It’s a turn on”, “they are lonely”, and “Some men do but not all”.  Some even think phone sex is a sexual addiction. There were also some answers that were obviously given by guys who indulge in phone sex and were able to give some insightful answers.

Response #1

“Most of it is all psychological  it has to do with the idea that a girl is being dirty, taboo, its different (and less work…) most of all, it has a bit more imagination involved. not everything is so realistic so while a guy is fantasizing, he can be thinking of any number of hot scenarios. Its stimulation… the basic concept of pornography…. (fyi, there are many gals who enjoy it too)”

Response #2

“Biologically men are wired to be very easily stimulated by sights and sounds, sights more so but sounds can be just as arousing.
When a guy is on a phone with a girl he can fantasize about her (or who ever) he can act out his fantasies to an extent by tell the girl to say what he wants. And, yes its true, guys tend to masturbate at the same time.
What it boils down to is that phone sex is a cheap and easy way for some guys to get hot and get off.
And just for clarification: The only time I’ve ever had phone sex was with a girlfriend, and she enjoyed it too! Not all guys care for phone sex though.”


As a phone sex operator, I have some opinions of my own as to why men love phone sex and it boils down to the fact that ‘fantasy can sometimes be better than reality”.  It can be difficult to reveal your fantasies with your partner if you don’t think they will be open to it and willing to explore them with you especially if they are taboo. Calling a stranger that will not judge you and indulge these fantasies can be a very enjoyable experience.

If you love phone sex and have something insightful to say on the subject, I’d love to hear your comments.




One of the best things about phone sex is role playing

I love it when a guy tells me his fantasy and we play it out. I’ve played everything from a naughty school girl to a Mistress. There are alot of girls out there with just one specialty but it’s so much more fun to do it all.

I’m always being asked questions like ‘what’s your favorite role to play?’, ‘what’s the wildest thing you’ve ever done on a call?’, or ‘what really turns you on?’. I find these questions impossible to answer because I can never narrow it down to just one thing. Besides, I think they ask those questions because they are trying to figure out if I’ll be open to whatever it is they want to get into anyway. Alot of phone sex girls say ‘anything goes’ and don’t really mean it, I assure you that I mean it!

The whole purpose of phone sex is about Fantasy. Going places in your sexuality that you either want to go for real at some point, may never do but the fantasy turns you on and you need to play it out, or you just want to explore something new. Because the possibilities of sex are limitless, phone sex should be the same way.

It doesn’t matter if you’re in the mood to just be yourself or someone else, I’m open to it.So I ask you…..What role can I play for you? What role would you like to play for me?

Your Fantasy or Your Truth


I can’t tell you how many times I had someone on the line wanting to play out a fantasy that I could tell was not just a fantasy at all. They have their reasons I’m sure for not telling me it’s something they either really want to do or have already tried. It could be that seeing it as a fantasy makes it more exciting or they may be embarrassed to admit the truth. It’s totally understandable that a person that’s into something taboo would say it’s a fantasy and in most cases a fantasy is just a fantasy. But what happens when you fantasize about something so much that it seeps into your reality? Is it possible to be so turned by something and never want to try it for real?   Hmmmmmm;)

I read an article that said the top 10 male fantasies were:

  • Threesomes

  • Sex with a Prostitute

  • Role playing

  • Women who are off-limits

  • Exotic locations

  • Caught in the act

  • Sex with a stranger

  • Voyeuristic pleasure

  • Being with dominatrix

  • Sex with a Virgin

This is of course a very ‘vanilla’ way of describing them but you get the idea. I’ve found role playing to be the most common among my callers and within that all the other fantasies listed above are played out.  Of course there is no way I can know for sure if I’m playing out or listening to someones fantasy or a confession of their truth.

I do believe that a person can have a fantasy they would never carry out in real life. I have a few of my own, but to make my point, I want to give you something to think about. You know that very naughty fantasy you have that no one knows about? 🙂 If you could actually do it and no one would ever find out, would you go through with it? If you didn’t already say no, then you would, which means your fantasy may very well be your truth. I say…….as long as it legal, go for it!

Virtual Threesome

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Most men fantasize about having a threesome with 2 women but few will actually get the opportunity. Those who have experienced a threesome more than likely did it with someone they had a casual sex relationship with that wasn’t their wife or girlfriend. If a man is in a relationship or married, he knows that his dream of bringing another girl into their bedroom is a fantasy that he may never fulfill. Some of the reasons most women say no to a threesome is because they fell like it’s cheating or they don’t want to be intimate with another woman or they feel insecure. So, instead of asking your wife or girlfriend for something she more than likely will never say yes to, consider a virtual threesome.

If you can convince your partner to engage in a threesome with a phone sex operator, it can be a very satisfying experience. I had a caller tell me he wanted to do a threesome with his girlfriend and I thought he meant as a role play but he actually had her there on the line with him. When she said hello, I could tell that she was a bit shy but willing to indulge to please her man. He took control of the call and told us both what to do so it would be the kind of threesome he would want in real life. His girlfriend got more into it as we went along which really turned him on. It was a very hot session that ended with him showing her how much he appreciated her fulfilling his fantasy as I listened in. They came together and I could feel the intensity of it through the phone. He called me a few days later to tell me how much they enjoyed it and how surprised he was at how much his girlfriend opened up and really got into it. He seems to think it may have opened her mind to trying it for real someday but if that never happens, he’s very happy that she’s willing to do it on the phone.

Your dream of a threesome can be realized too if you just try doing it another way.  Getting your partner to agree to it may be the hardest part but if she agrees, virtual may be the way go so you may want to give it a try.

Oh, BTW……….You may also want to consider that she too may have a threesome fantasy with 2 guys, so why not return the favor. There are plenty of male phone sex operators out there;)

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